Is deceptive flirting on internet apps so bad? Am I guilty of wasting someone else´s time if I make myself appear open to hooking up when I´m not? I dunno. As personal failings go, I think that´s like failing to show up on time for an appointment with your heroin dealer. Selfish? Yes. Thoughtless? Yes. But ain´t nobody a saint in the online hookup world. If ya want to be a better person, get off Bumble altogether and meet potential mates at church potlucks.
I hear you, but I also try to keep in mind that this hypothetical heroin dealer may not know they’re a heroin dealer - they’re just perceived that way by our our validation-seeking addict brains. As far as they’re concerned, they’re a bookkeeper looking for love.
Yeah...it´s possible that I´m just angling for some sort of excuse. I live in Mexico where gay males who flirt online but don´t follow through are known as caliente huevos, ball-warmers. Guilty as charged. I´m not familiar with phone apps for heterosexuals, only GRINDR. Maybe some people do find real love on GRINDR (can´t rule out the possibility) but it´s a harsh, harsh world.
"Caliente huevos!" I love it! If I heard that, I would have thought someone was ordering fried eggs and could have embarrassed myself mightily ;-)
Yes, I was talking about dating apps rather than hook-up apps. Even so, I don't see why we can't be on time to meet our drug dealers. My punctuality isn't contingent on your worthiness.
Is deceptive flirting on internet apps so bad? Am I guilty of wasting someone else´s time if I make myself appear open to hooking up when I´m not? I dunno. As personal failings go, I think that´s like failing to show up on time for an appointment with your heroin dealer. Selfish? Yes. Thoughtless? Yes. But ain´t nobody a saint in the online hookup world. If ya want to be a better person, get off Bumble altogether and meet potential mates at church potlucks.
I hear you, but I also try to keep in mind that this hypothetical heroin dealer may not know they’re a heroin dealer - they’re just perceived that way by our our validation-seeking addict brains. As far as they’re concerned, they’re a bookkeeper looking for love.
Yeah...it´s possible that I´m just angling for some sort of excuse. I live in Mexico where gay males who flirt online but don´t follow through are known as caliente huevos, ball-warmers. Guilty as charged. I´m not familiar with phone apps for heterosexuals, only GRINDR. Maybe some people do find real love on GRINDR (can´t rule out the possibility) but it´s a harsh, harsh world.
"Caliente huevos!" I love it! If I heard that, I would have thought someone was ordering fried eggs and could have embarrassed myself mightily ;-)
Yes, I was talking about dating apps rather than hook-up apps. Even so, I don't see why we can't be on time to meet our drug dealers. My punctuality isn't contingent on your worthiness.